Masturbation brings surprising benefits to the relationship

 

The 90s began when the Spanish film star Pedro Almodóvar impacted the world of cinema with the scene from Átame (1989) where the solitary and provocative masturbation of Victoria Abril takes place playing Marina, who relaxes with a sex toy in the shape of a submariner. .

It is a pop culture fact that shouted, at that time, that women also masturbated and that it was not something out of this world either. It was something to enjoy alone and, today, although taboos still exist, it is widely known that masturbation has no side effects, on the contrary, it has many benefits. 

However, what is still perhaps not so normalized is the power of masturbation for the relationship. In addition to raising the temperature and giving pleasure, does it provide anything else? Could it generate distrust, or perhaps disinterest?

Masturbation in current figures

According to a recent survey carried out by Gleeden, a female platform for extramarital dating, on the occasion of World Masturbation Day being celebrated every May 7, 8 out of 10 Mexican women claimed to have known themselves better sexually thanks to masturbatory practice, but also 79% of The people surveyed stated that masturbation complements their sexual relationships as a couple; 11% said that it improves them and only 7% said that it decreases them.

Expert sexologists on the platform assure that " women who masturbate have much happier relationships compared to those who do not . " But the best part is that the benefits obtained not only remain in individual, physical pleasure or in the female body, but also provides well-being to the couple's relationship, during the sexual act and afterward.

The psychologist, sexual and couples therapist, Luis Enrique Santos, explains that masturbation facilitates communication between both members of the couple, especially when we are able to explain to our partner how we like to be touched.

“By sharing such an intimate moment, verbalizing our tastes, respecting those of others... what we are doing is respecting the diversity and differentiation of each person. In other words, couple masturbation is a way to improve communication thanks to the emotional involvement and respect it shows,” explains the expert.

Another benefit is how simple it is to solve some challenges such as penetration not being satisfactory and we find that with this practice we have more intense orgasms. Alright. Sex isn't always about intercourse.It is also to be enjoyed from other approaches, as suggested, for example, by the Karezza method.

Additionally, one of the most frequent myths in relation to masturbation is that if one of the members of the couple practices it it is because they do not feel satisfied, and in reality, research has shown that it is rather healthy in relationships. couple. So it Explain Men's sexual health expert Michael Shelton writes in Psychology Today and says that masturbation comprehensively complements the sexual repertoire for those who already have satisfying sex in their lives.

However, Shelton emphasizes that masturbation should not completely replace shared sexual activity, unless both partners have agreed to it.

How to present the idea

If in the midst of loving action the opportunity for masturbation as a couple has not been given by itself, it is advisable to know how it is going to be approached because many times the shame, prejudices and beliefs established by each person's upbringing hinder the fluidity of the communication.

Santos explains that for some people this is not something simple, but he advises that we keep in mind that we are promoting a moment of great physical intimacy, but also emotional, so it is good to think that what is being done and proposed is something completely natural. and normal and that far from being ashamed, we are certain that the couple will like to see us enjoying ourselves, excited and exploring our bodies.

It is important that once the idea is proposed, certain patterns or conditions are established to feel safe and comfortable. This is reviewing issues such as lighting, clothing, location, the way to do it and it is okay to listen and explore without judging the couple for the ideas they propose. Once this level of communication is established, Santos says that intimacy is consolidated with great force.

This is another benefit of masturbation as a couple. Many relationships can last years, share your entire life, children, home, be happy and still not have enough trust in terms of intimacy. By having a greater awareness of the experiences and experiences that one has with the practice, an even deeper bond is established than the one one already has.